When running team building events, Management or Leadership Training, I do find the very suggestion of the word ‘Victim’ or the suggestion that attendees may be failing to take responsibility for their own career can result in a lot of surprised faces!
We don’t like to admit it, but many of us out there failing to take responsibility for our own lives, career path and happiness at work. As a result, we then point the blame at our organization or our Manager for failing to support us, make us happy or failing to give us what we want.
Failing to take responsibility for our own career is a common issue which can leave us dis-empowered and often resentful.
I had a coaching client who always blamed his Manager for the lack of work life balance in his life. He was constantly moaning about his workload and stating that he didn’t have enough hours in the day. He also felt his boss was too demanding and also, didn’t care about his welfare. He also became resentful when he would see his work colleagues leaving work at 5pm. Can you see in this example how this person was not taking responsibility for his own work life balance and in fact, preferred to do nothing and just blame other people?
At the end of the day, nobody is coming to save you and if you do want your career to change for the better, you need to step up, take action and be responsible. For those of us who are stuck in victim hood, this becomes even more difficult we have decided we are rather fond of the ‘poor me’ story.
However, this keeps you stuck in a spot of self-pity, blame mode and totally dis-empowered. Ok, you may get to moan about the person who you believe is responsible for your behavior and situation but let's get honest, is this really helping you sort out the situation you are complaining so much about?
Remember, you are an adult now and it is time to start to take responsibility for all of your life.
Try these steps for taking responsibility for your own career:
Lisa Phillips is a Sydney Trainer and facilitator, Speaker and Confidence Coach with over 15 years’ experience. She works with large and small organisations on topics such as Staff empowerment and engagement, confidence and self-responsibility. She is also the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ .
Lisa appears regularly in the Media, on TV, Radio and Print.