A popular topic and one that Confidence Coach and Professional Speaker Lisa Phillips raves about! Let's face it, if you care about your own emotional wellness, you will find it easier to become a more confident, resilient, assertive and empowered person.
In this final video clip from The Love Destination, Lisa shares how important it is to care about your own personal preferences and take care of your own emotional wellness. It isn't just about taking yourself off for a walk or a massage, but learning how to honour your own needs, listen to what you body is telling you and taking care of yourself every minute of the day.
Watch the video here.
Who is Lisa Phillips?
Lisa Phillips is the author of 'The Confidence Coach' (Exile 2015) www.theconfidencecoachbook.com. She founded www.amazingcoaching.com.au over 15 years ago after a successful career in finance, training and engagement. Lisa regularly runs workshops for organisations and is a popular public speaker. For more information please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au and www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com
Whether I am public speaking, running workshops or working with my Life or Confidence Coaching clients, I talk about the importance of your own authentic stream in life. For more information on my stream process please refer to http://www.amazingcoaching.com.au/why-your-life-is-like-a-flowing-stream/
Have you ever asked yourself 'What stream am I on?'. These days, particularly on social media, such as LinkedIn and Facebook, we are bombarded with courses we should attend, behaviours we should copy in order to become successful or events we should go to in order to achieve the success we desire. These often cost thousands of dollars.
However, have you ever checked in with yourself to see if these ideas are actually on your own stream? Yes, it may seem like the road to success - but is it your preferred road to success? Or using the stream adage, is it on your stream - or someone else's? You see, each one of us has our own stream, one that is filled with our own preferences in life. Our own stream is unique and when we learn to tune in and follow our unique preferences, it will always feel good to us. When we do this, we are on our own authentic stream.
15 years ago, after completing my Life and Workplace Coaching accreditations, it was time to start up my own business. However, rather than checking into my own stream to identify what my unique personal preferences are, I watched what everyone else was doing. I followed successful coaches, spoke to people and tried to work out what route I should take to becoming a successful coach.
As a result, I decided to became a business coach. I did this because it was what everyone else was doing. I did it because I came across a course that told me that it was going to be easy and that I would attract lots of high paying clients. While I followed this path, I set up a business coaching website and away I went. 12 months later I had attracted one client and was quickly losing interest in coaching.
The truth was, that instead of listening to my own guidance on my own stream, I was tuning into everyone else's stream. Or let me say, I had decided to go 'mainstream' rather than my own unique stream. As a result, it never felt good to me. In my own words, it felt like an uphill struggle.
I see this frequently with my Life and Confidence Coach clients. Instead of tuning into their own preferences, they tag on to the next big idea that is sold to them. As a result, they often feel disappointed. You see, when you don't listen to your own stream and choose to step onto someone else's stream, it will never feel as good to you. Why? Because it may not fit with your own personal unique preferences.
Take a few minutes to think about your life now, are you on your own stream or are you in someone else's? What are you doing that you feel you should do, just because someone told you to do? Are you marketing your business in a way that you have been told will work or are you tuning into your own guidance to see what will work for you?
Look at the work you do each day in your business. What parts of it feel good to you? Which bits don't? Once you identify the parts that don't - could this be because you are doing what someone else told you to do rather than what you feel is the right thing to do?
If this is the case then I urge you to tune into your own stream and listen to your own guidance rather than listening to the guidance of other experts. Regardless of what anyone else thinks, follow your own stream. If attending a course or an event feels good to you and on your stream then do it. However, if it doesn't, then listen to your guidance and stay on your own stream. Trust your guidance and be authentic to yourself.
Lisa Phillips is an award winning Life and Confidence Coach based in Sydney. Lisa works with individuals and organisations to assist them in feeling good on their own stream. Lisa is also a popular public speaker and the author of 'The Confidence Coach' (Exile Publishing). To find out more please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au
When working with my Life and Confidence Coaching Clients or Professional Speaking, I often talk about the need for people to seek approval from other people. This could be at work, at home, with friends or even with complete strangers! Unfortunately, many of us work hard to gain this illusive approval, becoming people pleasers or turning ourselves inside out in the hope that other people will approve of us.
In doing this, we forget our own needs, our own wants and shove them to the side. We say Yes when we really want to say No and we end up agreeing to do all sorts of things we may not want to do. Gaining approval becomes an addiction, the 'hit' that we want so desperately to receive from other people. I see this a lot with staff at work, when they are desperately waiting for their boss to give them some praise or give some indication that they approve of the work they are doing.
Only when we receive approval do we then feel accomplished, that we have done a good job, or feel like a good person.
This idea of seeking of approval from others however, is fatally flawed. You see, we can never rely on the approval from others. They have their own lives, their own stuff going on and may not even consider the importance of 'approving of you'. As a result, when we don't receive the approval we crave, we can become upset, frustrated and feel like a failure.
Seeking approval from others never works as you are seeking a positive emotion from other people (outside of you) instead of finding it inside of yourself.
The key is to start approving of yourself. Give yourself the approval and acknowledgement you desire rather than craving it from other people. It can take a little time, but when you build momentum up on this, you will no longer keep seeking it from others, as you feel it yourself.
At the end of each day - why not give yourself some praise, tell yourself you have done a good job and give yourself a pat on the back - rather than waiting for someone else to tell you.
This itself gives you freedom. The freedom to be you. The freedom to do as you want and the freedom to care about your own wellbeing. The freedom from the approval of other people.
Lisa Phillips is an award winning Sydney Professional Life Coach and Sydney Confidence Coach. She runs workshops for organisations on the importance of empowerment and confidence. She is also the author of 'The Confidence Coach' (Exile Publishing) For more information, please also see www.amazingcoaching.com.au.
In the 5th expert video on the Love Destination TV Expert Series, Confidence Coach and Professional Speaker Lisa Phillips shares her expertise on the topic of Building Resilience. Please see here for more details on The Love Destination http://www.thelovedestination.com/shows
Lisa Phillips was delighted to share her tips on Resilience as it proves to be a very popular topic when she is running workshops or professional speaking. There are plenty of blogs on resilience on Lisa’s website so make sure you check out a few of them here: How Resilient Are You?, Do You Know How To Build Emotional Resilience?, What Does Confidence Mean To You?
Watch the video here.
Who is Lisa Phillips?
Lisa Phillips is the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ (Exile 2015) www.theconfidencecoachbook.com. She foundedwww.amazingcoaching.com.au over 15 years ago after a successful career in finance, training and engagement. Lisa regularly runs workshops for organisations and is a popular public speaker. For more information, please seewww.amazingcoaching.com.au and www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com
If you have been keeping up to date with the Amazing Coaching Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/AmazingCoaching/) you will have seen a great series of short videos of Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips appearing on The Love Destination Expert Series. http://www.thelovedestination.com/
Lisa presents on 7 different Confidence Topics such as:
As part of the Wellbeing Expert Series, Professional Speaker and Confidence Coach Lisa Phillips has also provided her top 11 Confidence tips in a short video. These short tips can be used by anyone to give themselves a well deserved boost of confidence!
Don't stress yourself out trying to do all the confidence tips at once. Just choose one or two that feel good to you and have fun building up your confidence muscle gradually. Remember, be patient with yourself!
Today we are sharing with you the fourth clip of Lisa Phillips appearing on The Love Destination TV Expert series. The topic for this more recent clip is ‘What is your intuition trying to tell you? http://www.thelovedestination.com/shows
The Love Destination is a new online expert series all about inspiration, empowerment and love. It is an online portal for entertainment, TV Shows, experts and resources on a wide area of topics including love, life, confidence, dating and relationships.
In this clip, Lisa speaks on the topic of ‘What is Your Intuition trying to tell you’.
As a popular Professional Speaker, Lisa often talks about the importance of tuning into your own inner GPS and following the guidance of your intuition.
Watch the video here.
Who is Lisa Phillips?
Lisa Phillips is the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ (Exile 2015) www.theconfidencecoachbook.com. She founded www.amazingcoaching.com.au over 15 years ago after a successful career in finance, training and engagement. Lisa regularly runs workshops for organisations and is a popular public speaker. For more information please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au and www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com
Lisa appears regularly in the Media, on TV, Radio and Print.