Sixteen years ago when I first trained to become a certified Life Coach, I remember the trainer explaining the concept of gratitude and the frequency of words. The benefits of gratitude are well-researched and science is now proving that people who practice gratitude experience more loving, forgiving and optimistic lives. In addition, grateful people report fewer illnesses and experience a higher sense of overall wellbeing.
However, I also remember struggling to find that actual feeling of gratitude in my body. To be honest, it wasn’t that I didn’t have anything to feel grateful about, it was simply that the word gratitude didn’t feel that good to me! As a result, although I tried to regularly practice an attitude of gratitude – it did feel like hard work and a struggle.
Fast forward a few years and I began studying the teachings of Abraham Hicks. In his teachings, Abraham talks about the frequency of words and how different words hold different frequencies e.g. the word Anger has a lower vibration that the word Joyful. (Please also see the work of Dr. Masaru Emoto).
This really resonated with me and I began to play with what words personally held a higher frequency for me. Higher frequency words are simply words which feel good to me and / or I experience positive emotion when I think about them.
In his teachings, Abraham also speaks about the use of the word appreciation as a replacement for the word Gratitude. The good news is that I found it far more natural and easy for me to tap in feelings of appreciation and as a result, I now have an appreciation journal now rather than a gratitude journal!
The point I am trying to make here is not only do words hold different vibrations, but each word may hold a different vibration depending on the beliefs and experiences of the person saying it. This is a really important concept for me to use when working with my coaching clients.
For example, I was recently working with a client who wanted to increase the amount of happiness in her life. However, for her personally, the word happiness held a low vibration as she often felt it was something she didn’t deserve and felt happiness was always something just out of her reach. However, when finding a replacement for the word happiness, we discovered the word Wellbeing held a higher frequency for this particular client.
The good news that this simple change for word began a far easier process for my client to being open to receiving large amounts of Wellbeing in her life!
Think about some of the words that you use – how do they feel when you use them? Remember, the law of attraction is not responding to your words – it is responding to the feeling about the word. This week why not choose words which make you feel good and resonate with you?
Lisa Phillips is a Sydney based Life and Confidence Coach. Lisa is also the author of 'The Confidence Coach' and is a popular public speaker. For more information, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au and www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com
I regularly talk about self praise – in fact, it is one of the key tips in several of my keynote speaker topics such as ‘How to be Your Own Best Friend’ or ‘How to Engage and Empower Your Staff’. (Please see www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com)
In discussing the importance of self praise whether it is with coaching clients or when speaking at an wellbeing event or conference, there is often a lot of resistance to be felt from my audience!
Unfortunately, many of us have negative beliefs both from society and our families, that it is ‘wrong’ in some way to give ourselves a well deserved pat on the back. We often believe that it is arrogant or simply unnecessary. Many people also don’t believe they deserve to bestow this kindness on themselves and hook into phrases such as ‘Self Praise is no praise’ or ‘Self Praise is no recommendation’.
Contrary to the above, clients often come to me to be coached as they are desperate for someone outside of themselves to praise them. I hear phrases like ‘My boss never says well done’, or ‘I never know where I stand’.
Isn’t it amusing that we are on the search for praise from other people but are not willing to give it to ourselves? In fact, we look for others to validate us through external praise, but are not willing to validate ourselves.
Thankfully, science is also starting to show the positive effects of self praise on our brain and that it can actually assist us to learn new habits more successfully.
Even more importantly for me, is how regular self praise can build up strong self esteem, inner confidence and encourages a positive view of self. In addition, self praise actually feels good on the body and will cause you to move ‘downstream’. (Please see Lisa’s other blogs for information on her Downstream concept).
Giving yourself some well deserved praise and acknowledgement may also prevent you seeking it so desperately from other people. Remember, you cannot ever rely on anyone else to boost your self esteem or give you the validation that you require. If you are continually searching for praise from other people, you will only end up disappointed. To be honest, it is not other peoples responsibility to praise or validate you. However, you can choose right now to give yourself the gift of self praise.
Try these simple methods:
Lisa Phillips is a Life and Confidence Coach based in Australia. She is also the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ – (Exile Publishing). To find out more about Lisa, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au or to book Lisa to speak at your event, please see www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com.
Let's be honest, life has its ups and downs. However, the amount of happiness (and achievement of your desires) you experience has a lot to do with how you personally handle life's downturns.
Many of us, who may lack resilience skills, find that our emotions feel like having a feather inside of us. In this I mean that life tends to knock us around emotionally, depending on the conditions we are experiencing around us. It is all very well when life is going well, but when things knock you around, it is like the feather gets blown around in the wind taking your emotions on a roller coaster ride.
'Downturns' in life are inevitable, but you can make a choice not to hang out as a feather and instead, choose to have a rock inside of you. In this I mean that you can remain positive, stable and grounded, regardless of the conditions around you.
When coaching or public speaking, I use the adage of 'What end of the stick are you holding'. I came across this while attending an Abraham Hicks cruise earlier last year.
Think about it, when life has an unexpected turn, what end of the stick do you grab onto? Is it the end of the stick that represents negative emotions such as frustration, anger, hopelessness or despair? Or do you care enough about how you feel to reach for the positive end of the stick which represents encouragement, comfort, releasing resistance and ultimately a feeling of wellbeing?
There are always two ways to look at any situation. However, there really is only one question you need to ask yourself - are you choosing the end of the stick that will feel good to you, or the end of the stick that will only bring more negative momentum?
The key is that you need to care more about how you feel and use soothing and encouraging words that help you reach for better feelings and head towards the positive end of the stick. Please refer to past blogs on www.amazingcoaching.com.au for tips on how to soothe yourself into a better feeling place.
Lisa Phillips is a Keynote Speaker, Life and Confidence Coach based in Australia. Lisa is also the author of 'The Confidence Coach' (Exile Publishing). To find out more about Lisa or to book her to speak at your event, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au or www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com.au
As a Confidence and Life coach with over 16 years experience, the majority of my clients decide to engage my services as they feel there is something happening in their life which doesn’t feel good. Or, to put it another way, they are finally fed up with feeling bad and want to do something about it! During my first consultation with a new client, I often congratulate my clients on actually listening to their body. It’s a great first step and an acknowledgement that the client has a personal desire to feel better.
However, many of us have just got used to feeling ‘bad’ or feeling negative emotions. It is almost as if we have given up and have simply accepted that to feel negative emotion is normal. This could relate to life in general on in a specific area of life.
Take a minute to think about your life in general. Do you regularly experience negative emotion at work? Perhaps it is your financial situation that you consistently feel bad about? Is it your confidence or self esteem that you have just accepted as being low?
Often people accept negative feelings as they have simply just got used to them. In addition, many of us have a ‘poor me story’ about why our life never seems to work on in this particular area.
The problem is that the more we experience the negative emotion, the more we just expect to feel ‘bad’. This then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Remember, negative beliefs lead to negative thoughts, which in turn lead to negative expectations and negative experiences.
So why is that that although we are aware that something doesn’t feel good – we just keep on doing it anyway?
Every person is different with a unique set of beliefs but a good place to start is to look at your beliefs and expectations about feeling good. Be honest, do you just expect life to be difficult for you or do you believe that you don’t deserve to feel good or experience wellbeing in all areas of your life?
It doesn’t matter what individual topic I am working on with a client, or what keynote speech I am presenting on, they all come back to the following – ‘You need to care more about how you Feel‘.
This sounds so simple doesn’t it – but most of us don’t pay enough attention to our feelings. As a result, we have just got used to feeling bad most of the time.
The truth is that wellbeing is our natural state and if you really want to have a happy fulfilling life, you need to care more about how you feel. In doing this, you will care enough about yourself and your wellbeing, to care about experiencing positive emotions and moving from feeling ‘bad’ into ‘feeling good’.
Lisa Phillips is a Keynote Speaker, Life and Confidence Coach based in Australia. Lisa is also the author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ (Exile Publishing). To find out more about Lisa or to book her to speak at your event, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au or www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com.au
When running workshops or speaking at organisations, I often hear that Senior Management have set goals or have expectations for their staff relating to performance. However, for the employees, if they have little interest in achieving these goals or cannot see 'what it is it for them' then it simply will continue to just be a dream or a goal in managements mind!
The positive feelings of hope, belief, certainty and expectation are fundamental to the achievement of any goal, whether it is personal or organisational. When you are able to feel the expectation of your desire becoming your reality then you have successfully closed the gap on receiving what you want. However, the key is 'receiving what you want' and how many employees want to experience or receive a goal that has been set for them?
For example, let's say you have a goal to increase staff engagement to 75%. You put a plan in place and start to work on making it happen. Unfortunately, unless you also work on your employees underlying beliefs that it can or will happen and it will be a positive experience then it is not likely that you will achieve that 75% target very soon!
The key is to 'close the gap' on the goal and reason why your staff would want to expect or believe it.
Lisa Phillips is an International Speaker and Confidence Coach based in Sydney. Lisa regularly works with organisations in team building, wellbeing and conference events. To find out more about Lisa, please see www.amazingcoaching.com.au or www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com.
I am delighted to share the news that Amazing Coaching is moving! (It is all a bit scary actually!).
Many of you know that I am originally from the UK and have spent the past sixteen years living in Sydney, Australia. Prior to this, I also spent several years working in Europe, USA and living in Singapore for 12 months. I founded Amazing Coaching back in 2000 and the good news is with all your support, it has grown into a wonderful experience for me which has included not just coaching, but TV and radio appearances, awards and exciting speaker engagements both here in Australia, internationally and also on Cruise ships around the world.
In the past few years, I have felt the need to change location and therefore am moving back to the UK in February 2017. Nora my cat is also travelling with me and I am sure she will enjoy the central heating and open fires that the UK can offer!
My plans in the UK are open and currently include speaking on a cruise from Dubai to Barcelona, volunteering in India with an organisation that combats sex trafficking and slavery and also a trip to Alaska and the USA.
My passions always lie in the upliftment of those I have had the pleasure to work with and as an avid traveller, I am keen to further my horizons not just in the UK, but all over the world. The good news is that I am excited to be open to any adventures and opportunities that come my way so if you would like to get in touch about running a workshop or speaking in your city, wherever it is – please feel free to contact me! I am literally open to anything that feels good! I have placed my order with the universe and I’m excited to see what unfolds for me.
For all my lovely loyal clients here in Australia – I will also be continuing with Skype Coaching sessions – I will just have to get used to getting up in the small hours of the morning!
I would also like to take this opportunity to inform you of my new online training modules that will be released early February. I am excited about the launch which will cover topics such as:
Finally, a big thank you to every one of you who has supported me over the past 16 years. This newsletter started with only a couple of subscribers and now over 5k people receive this newsletter every month! Thank you all again for all your love and support.
As 2016 comes to a close, I always like to reflect kindly on the past months, appreciating the wonderful people and organisations that I have had the opportunity to either run a wellbeing event, facilitate a professional development day or speak at an annual conference.
2016 was a huge year for me, resulting in being engaged to run a series of workshops for both Royal Caribbean International and Celebrity Cruises. These workshops included:
1) How to Manage Your Stress (Before it manages you).
2) Building Resilience Skills .
3) Building Confidence in less than 1 minute a day.
4) How to be Your Own Best Friend.
Being passionate about being both a professional speaker and regular cruiser this was the perfect engagement for me!
The good news is that 2016 brought me many opportunities to work with staff in the Caring and Education professions. This was a wonderful experience for me seeing an increase in organisations caring about the wellbeing of their staff. Some of the great organisations I worked with in 2016 included The University of Western Sydney, Newcastle University, MLC School, Annual Education Professional Development Day (Western Sydney Schools) and also the UPA (Aged Care) Annual Conference.
One of my favourite industries to work with is Hospitality and I was delighted to continue working with CHP RSL Club on a range of different topics.
As 2017 is upon us, I fully expect more organisations to explore the opportunities for their staff to become more resilient, confident and empowered. In saying this, please don't hesitate to contact me if you would like to have a chat about how I can help you.
Many thanks to everyone for your support and have a fantastic empowered 2017!
Sydney based Confidence Coach and Professional Speaker is delighted to be speaking at the University of Newcastle. (Sydney Campus) in November 2016.
Lisa will be speaking as part of the Universities Leadership Experience and Development (iLEAD) Plus Program.
The iLEAD program is an Leadership Program that gives students the opportunity to build skills in the areas of leadership, international awareness, social […]
Sydney Confidence Coach and Professional Speaker Lisa Phillips was delighted to be the guest speaker at the Annual UPA Conference at the Gold Coast, Australia on Oct 30th 2016.
At this event, Lisa spoke for 60 minutes on the importance of people caring for themselves and being their own best friend. For anyone working in the caring industry, there is a tendency to take care of other people before taking care of yourself.
During this presentation, Sydney Professional Speaker Lisa Phillips covered the following:
If you would like to book Lisa Phillips to speak at your event, please contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org and also check out Lisa’s speaker website at www.howtoempoweryourstaff.com
Sydney Confidence Coach and Life Coach Lisa Phillips is to appear on a new online TV series called ‘ All about You’.
All about You is an internet show exploring Numerology, Astrology, Health & Nutrition, Meditation and self development. The show launches on 17 October 2016.
To find out more, please see http://www.allaboutyouaus.com/
Confidence Coach and author of ‘The Confidence Coach’ Lisa Phillips will be appearing on the show on Nov 7th talking about her favourite subject – Confidence of course! To see previous episodes of the show or to see Lisa Live on Facebook, please like the Facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/AllAboutYouAus
Lisa appears regularly in the Media, on TV, Radio and Print.